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As I have said in earlier blogs, men and women are designed to trick each other. The female of the species - unlike the vast majority of all other mammals - does not have a "season" as such where both genders know exactly what to do and it's a fuck fest of fertility. Our complex social behaviours mean that we operate a number of conflicting models of behaviour -male resources support offspring flourishing but rapacious male sex drives do create problems in settled communities. Female competition for these resources also makes for community tensions and unlike species that are happily monogamous and such behaviour is sexually selected for in the successful continuation of the species, human reproductive success is complicated, often counter intuitive and seems destined to make us rather unhappy. In the old fashioned world of competition for male resources, women operated the only currency available to them - sexual access In cultures where women have no control over that currency, they fare very, very badly indeed. Take the horrific, brutal lives of women in Afghanistan where they are not educated, cannot drive or indeed travel without a male companion. Married off to much older men. Whole religions are designed around the need to control access to sex because men fear the loss of that access.
Turning the coin over, look at sexual promiscuity in the West where the contraceptive pill lifts the burden of biology so that women can freely fuck with impunity. Does that make women any better off.? Well, manifestly it does because it gives women choice over their body and lives but still, the currency is devalued when so freely spent. Men given something for nothing seem not to value it and women are not designed to ignore the biological imperative. Nature makes women naturally assess potential lovers for security, reliability and kindness. Being fucked and forgotten hurts women deeply, lack of respect for the gift of sexual access cuts us to the quick.
When men learn that sexual access and home stability are the reward for supportive, chivalrous behaviour, the world benefits. When women guard and manage their currency wisely, home is a calm place to be.